The Gap in Kaltouma's Fence

This story was difficult for me to follow. From what I figured out, Kaltouma is a fiesty woman who is a widow. She is not old but she thinks that she should act older for some reason. Like when she is frozen in thought in the gap between her and her neighbor's yard. In that moment she cannot decide how to behave because she didnt know at what point in her life she belonged. She didnt feel like a child anymore but she wasnt sure if she would be considered older. In the end she marries Faki al-Baseer because that is what her family decides is best for her. I dont think Kaltouma knows what it is she wants or who she really is. A person should act as young or old as they want to but they should not let their age be the deciding factor.